How To Find & Keep Love
I think, we live in this perception where we believe that, if we wish, if we want, if we wait, love will arrive fully formed, when in fact it's really about intentionally building it step by step. And I'm usually one for breaking rules, but I believe that there are rules of love that actually help us navigate the challenges, to prepare for the imperfections, to accept that there will be conflict, there will be breakdowns, there will be disagreements.
Often we think that love is perfect and that love is easy and that love should just flow. That's true, it can be that way, but we often forget that the difference between a relationship with yourself and a relationship with someone else is that you go from dealing with one mind to dealing with two minds. But if we're prepared for that, if we're ready for that, then we have a better chance for overcoming the inevitable difficulties that will arise.
If you type the words "Will I ever" into Google, it predicts that the next words you'll enter are "find love", because the question "Will I ever find love" is what perplexes us most about our futures. It represents our anxiety, our insecurity, and our fear. What we don't realize though, is that this anxiety is what forces us to make poor decisions in the journey towards finding love.
And so, I find that if you're still looking for love, take a moment to really reflect on when, love comes into your life already through yourself and through others. Take a moment to make sure that you're spending time in places of equal value to the partner that you want, make sure that you are giving yourself the type of love that you want to receive from someone else.
We love, love so much because we're wired that way. If you look at anything in the world, every part of nature is trying to give love or serve in some way. When you look at the ocean, it provides water for the entire planet. When you look at a tree, it provides shade, it provides fruits. And yet, as humans, we often focus on taking it and wanting it more than giving it.
A 75-year study by Harvard showed that the number one indicator for human happiness was the quality of our relationships, and the quality of our relationships is based on the depth of our ability to love and receive love. And so to me, if we're talking about human happiness, if we're talking about human purpose, if we're talking about the pursuit of a beautiful, joy-giving, fulfilling life, then love and the ability to give and receive love is at the heart of that.
Love unites us all by experience. So whoever you've dated, whoever has or hasn't worked out, whoever you had a crush on and you didn't get to be with, or someone who lost someone after many years of loving them, we are united in our search, we're brought together in our heartbreak, and we are coming together in our struggle.
I think that the experience of love, no matter where we are in the world, is felt the same. Love have the ability to transcend countries and regions and language because the way we feel love is similar, the way we experience heartbreak is similar.
You can seek love your whole life and never find it, or you can share love for your whole life and experience it every day. Experience it, practice it, live it, as opposed to waiting for it to find you, and when you do that, you get to experience the depths of love every single day, every single week, every single year, for the rest of your life.
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